Addressing Your Perceived Haters

What is a hater? Is a person who simply doesn't like you a hater? Do we put ourselves on such a high pedestal that we feel like everyone should constantly praise, celebrate and applaud our every move? If a person offers constructive criticism, do we label them a hater?

Quite simply put, a hater is someone in your circle who secretly desires to be you. They are willing to lend an ear or offer input into your personal negativity or drama but when you have a positive attribute or accomplishment, they are nowhere to be found. A hater will sit back and secretly hope for you to fail. Unlike an enemy, a hater wants a front row seat but is not in your audience.

So why do we give so much time and attention to our perceived haters? We dedicate time and energy into addressing the haters through tweets and status updates which only validates their opinion matters to you. By even taking the time to address them, you subconsciously fuel them further.

Keep yourselves far from envy; it eateth up and taketh away good actions, like as fire eateth up and burneth wood

If you have an accomplishment, accolade, or good news to share, then share it! Don't sit back and wait for people you already know don't support you nor do they contribute to your success to sing your praises. Why would you expect someone who doesn't support you frequently to celebrate you often?

If you have a "hater" in your circle, you have a choice to continue that relationship or allow them to wander in the mist. Stop worrying about who likes you and who doesn't. Focus on your family and loved ones and be in the moment with those who celebrate and support you. The best way to silence a hater is with silence.


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